Communication is the most important and common way to solve problems in our life, but human beings are so perceptual that it is difficult for people to control their emotions on some problems. At this time, communication will become a quarrel. In the process of quarreling, there are often more and more voices. In this case, solving problems is often no longer our purpose, but venting our emotions has become the main one. However, the problem will not be effectively solved, so we should have ways to maintain effective communication. I divided the solution to the quarrel into three parts: the first reminder, the second warning and the third interruption. Starting from the beginning of the quarrel, I can prevent and interrupt the quarrel more effectively .